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When I was leaving my former career as a middle school counselor to launch my business, I was approached by several parents to do parent coaching.  I thought about it long and hard.  It would be an easy transition, since I already had a referral stream.  I knew family dynamics really well.  But, somehow I knew in my gut that it wasn’t right for me.  That it would be a continuation of what I was already doing, instead of the bold break into a new adventure that I was desiring.

So, I said no.  No, I’m actually not going to be available to keep working with you and your child.  No, I’m taking a fresh direction that speaks to my heart and strengths.  No, that path isn’t the one that is best for me and my family right now.

Learning to say no can be insanely hard.  Especially for women.  We are often taught to be helpful and agreeable.  It’s certainly not a bad thing to love and support our families and communities.  However, at what cost?

If you need some inspiration on how to be a badass so you can say no more freely and with less guilt, find it here.

Have you ever just felt exhausted?  Burned out?  Overwhelmed?  And, if you’re being honest, plain pissed off that you’re taking care of so many other people’s shit?

Come on!  It’s time to let go and say no.

Take inventory of your life.  Of course, there are things that must get done (i.e. laundry, doctor’s appointments, paying bills, feeding ourselves, etc.) BUT, how many other things are there that you think you “should” do?

You may have heard the expression “stop shoulding all over yourself.”  I don’t know who coined it, but I’m grateful they did.

Between the musts and the should, where do the wants and wishes fit in??

Recently, I’ve said no to two acquaintances who’ve reached out to get coffee.  At first, I felt like a bitch.  And then, I just took a breath, and reminded myself that my priorities right now are to my family, my business, my friends, and my own well-being.  It’s not that I don’t like the people I said no to, I just chose to be clear on my priorities in my wonderfully full life.  (Badass high five!)

Soooo, if you want to create the life and career of your dreams, you must learn to say no. You can say it graciously.  You can say it kindly.  You can say it politely.  Whatever suits you.

But, you must learn to say it.  (And, once you do, you will feel so much more free.  Trust me.  It’s awesome.)

Or, you will be swallowed up by the wishes and needs of others, and your own desires and needs will drift away.  #prioritizeyourself

I’m curious, what are some times when you said no?  Tell us about it in the comments down below.  Others will be inspired by your badass boldness! And, if you found this helpful, please share it with your peeps.  Buttons below for easy sharing 🙂 

As always, it means so much to me to have this Badass + Brilliant community all over the world.  Thank you for hanging out with me each week!

Keep being Badass + Brilliant.  You are change agents.  The world needs you.

Game on!

xo

Sage

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