“Toxic” Relationships: When to let go? - Sage B. Hobbs

It can be so hard to know when to stay or go in some of your relationships– to determine if a relationship is sucking you dry and zapping your spirit.  


How do you determine when to let a relationship go?  Or put boundaries in place to take care of yourself?


This can be really tricky.  Typically, I believe most relationships can reach a peaceful place, even if not an ideal one.  Not everyone will be your best friend or biggest cheerleader.  However, we can often greatly influence the quality of our relationships if we use our naked communication skills (clean, clear, compassionate, and courageous conversations).  

It can be hard as hell, and totally uncomfortable, to have naked conversations. But I believe it’s always worth the effort, so that you can be the most fully self-expressed and powerful version of yourself.  


That’s freedom.  That’s power — being able to have a voice and take care of yourself no matter what a relationship brings to the table.  


But, sometimes there are those relationships that cause us ongoing pain, or deplete our energy so much it’s exhausting.  It’s particularly hard if the strained relationship is with a family member whom you can’t easily “break up” with.


So, how do you know when it’s time to let go?  


That’s what I spoke about in our FB community recently.  You can watch the video here, and if you want to be a part of awesome conversations like this one with others who are exploring getting more “naked,” you can join us here.  


The more we can choose connection and courage, above being right or being afraid, the more we can create amazing communities and show up more powerfully in all areas of our lives.


Not everyone needs to be in your orbit.  You have choice about how you respond to the people in your life who feel “toxic.”  


You have full permission to clean up your relationships so that you feel supported and valued by the people in your life.  


You are not bad or unloving or selfish by being courageous and creating relationships that work for you.  


You can set boundaries with loads of compassion, but you don’t have to quietly absorb conversations and behaviors that cause you distress. You really don’t.  


More on managing “toxic” relationships here.  And then let me know what you think in the comments in our Naked Communication Community.


And if you have friends who are struggling in a “toxic” relationship and could use some help sorting it out, please share this article with them.  Then you and your friend can spend time talking about things that really matter to you, not the exhausting cycle of the crappy relationship.  

Self expression and freedom, that’s what we’re after.