I’ve been thinking a lot about change lately.
Earlier this year, I attended a conference where a wise presenter said, “People aren’t afraid of change, they’re afraid of the loss that comes with change.”
I’ve literally been thinking about this idea for months.
Because if “The only constant in life is change,” as Greek philosopher Heraclitus is credited with saying, then we humans are constantly navigating loss.
Okay, I won’t go too deeply down the rabbit hole of philosophy and existentialism (though sometimes I do!).
But through my work with highly capable, intelligent, socially conscious leaders AND my own life experiences – I know that we must learn to weather change well, or we’ll be constantly resisting the inevitable and suffering for it.
• What changes are happening in your life?
• And how do you approach these moments of transition?
I just completed a three year partnership with an amazing group of school principals in Wyoming. I got to know these 49 leaders deeply and had the privilege of supporting their growth. And next month, I’ll begin this crucial work with a new cohort of school leaders.
My daughter finished elementary school this spring and will begin the (often awkward) transition to middle school next month. That wrapped up ten years that I’ve been a parent at the school, and marked the next step in “growing up.”
My husband will be an Assistant Principal at the high school where he’s spent his twenty year teaching career. When some students found out, they expressed sadness that they wouldn’t get to have him as a teacher – he’ll miss that part of his work.
My son got his driver’s permit. How he’s reached that age and stage of life still feels mind blowing to me.
With all of these changes, there has been loss. With most of them, there has also been great joy and celebration.
Life is like that – the both/and messiness of it all.
So, back to these questions:
• What changes are happening in your life?
• And how do you approach these moments of transition?
I’ll share some of the ways I navigate change as a business owner, leadership coach, mom, and partner…
• Give myself permission to experience the varied emotions that arise with change (Mindfulness and Emotional Intelligence!)
• Remind myself of the inevitability of change, normalizing the experience (acceptance and grace!)
• Use curiosity to manage my mindset and responses (what new possibilities and wonders may arise through this change?)
Whatever season of career, family, and life you’re currently living through – change (and loss) is surely a part of it.
Like with anything, how we navigate and respond to it is where the self-leadership lies.
I hope you’re enjoying your summer. It’s my favorite time of year.
-Sage
What I’m into lately…
Living out a lifelong dream of “family, friends, travel, and discovery” in Europe. Check out some pics and stories on Instagram.
